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Skating on Banana Peels

5/30/2014

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From Westminster Seminary article by Bill Mounce. Click on the picture for part 1 of this 4-part series, "What We Do with the Bible." Then click on "Bill Mounce" in the righthand column to find the other parts. Worth the read!

After waking up one morning, my daughter said, "I dreamed I was skating through their house on banana peels."
Hearing the word their, I asked, "Whose house?"
"Your house."
"Whose house?" I slowly asked again.
"Oh, our house," she corrected.

We hear this often. She refers to our family in the third person as if she is not a part of it. Tomorrow will mark two years since her and her brother's adoption was finalized. They have lived with us for more than two years now. What are we doing wrong? What are we missing that keeps her from feeling like she is part of the family?

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The Loveless Martyr

5/25/2014

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I feel slighted when the kids do not immediately say "Thank you" when I do the daily grind of providing for them in multiple ways. Be it meals, cleaning the house, yard work, making their lunches, teaching them life skills, etc. Why can't they just say thanks or show a little gratitude?

One of the hats I wear is that of a stay-at-home dad. Because of the thankless days, I can feel slighted because they don't seem to appreciate my sacrifices for them. I can feel anger and unappreciated. I can feel like it's a worthless use of my time and energy because they aren't responding to it. This can easily transition to me letting them know how much I "sacrifice" for them. Then I play the martyr, the martyr of manipulation, but...


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The Birthdays

5/22/2014

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Today is Macayla's birthdays. Yes, plural. She was born on Earth on this day in 2001. Yet, at 11:25 p.m. on this day in 2010, she went Home to Christ and celebrated her birthday in heaven.

It has been a tougher week than usual. Normally, her birthday week, for reasons unknown and unexpected, has not been difficult, but this year its is. Memories are mysteriously sweet and painful.

Macayla is a gift. Her life is one to celebrate. I miss that life, of course, but I am so thankful for it. As much as I want her back, I cannot be so selfish as to wish her back from the healing and wholeness she now has. Her impact on us and others has been greater than we could imagine and we do not yet fully know all of the impact. I thank God for her and for giving her to us.

Happy Birthday, Macayla! And thank you for the gift you are and the joy you brought to our lives! Thank You, Lord, for allowing us to be her parents. Thank You for saving us and we look forward to seeing you both, face-to-face, one day!

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Jake's Watering Hole

5/15/2014

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I had a real taste for beer during my college days. I went to school in Charleston, South Carolina and that town provided plenty of locations in which I could indulge. There are plenty of bars and watering holes to choose from in the downtown area.

But in all of those weekends out on the town, I never found a watering hole I was willing to call home. You know, like Norm in that old TV show Cheers. A place where "everybody knows your name." 

Ironically, I found out I was looking in the wrong places for such a watering hole! I discovered the perfect place! Here's why...


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